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Sunday, November 15, 2009
all because of a stupid damn pig. which im being likened to.
initially, i didnt want all this shit of having a stupid banquet in which im the clown and the guests are ppl who are forced to pay to watch this shit performance.
i gave in. becus dad says i can forgo the banquet only if i have no parents. fine.
i didnt want to get the baby's potty, basin and all the etc. why? im not exactly interested in having a baby. even if i do miraculously change my mind in the future, why would i need the potty which i bought 5 yrs ago? worse thing is i cant throw it away. mum said, buy, if its for your own good. no one else's good. ok buy.
initially we bought 6 cans of pork trotters, to give to my family on GDL. now my mum wants 24, to give to her relatives. how come i never receive any pork trotters from other relatives when they got married? i have no idea. nvm, buy.
now, my funny parents in law, they suddenly brought up the topic of the roasted pig to give to us on actual day. WHY DO I NEED A FREAKIN PIG when im not a cantonese? isnt the girl's side supposed to be the one asking for things? why now guy side oso get to say to give things? thing is, they aint rich, so we are settling alot of things on our own without asking money from them like the si dian jin (which by right, they should be giving to the daughter-in-law). i was very insistent on not having the pig. i shook my head so vigourously that my head gonna fall off i swear. and nobody helped me. nobody stood by me and rejected the idea. i needed to cut cost. true, it might only be prob 100 bucks or so, but EVERY 100 bucks means a damn thing to me ok. if fridge i buy sth more ex by 100, washing machine another better one pay 100 more, tv another 200 more.. all these 100s add up.
i know i sound very money minded and stingy to them, but this wedding's cost, i want to be fully independent on ourselves to settle it, i dun wanna borrow any money or take any money from anyone but they just keep adding and adding. we also have our flat accessories to worry. they say, why dun spend a few more 100s to change the kitchen floor since its old and dirty, doesnt fit into your new house but usable? but if i spend a few more 100s on kitchen floor, where else can i cut cost from?
after 3 rounds of quarrels.
1st round me against both sides, draw.
2nd round me against the boy, i lose.
3rd round me against my parents and godma, i lose again.
they say, since i have already given in for 9 of the items on the GDL checklist, what is one more????? basically, even though from the start of the session till the end of the session, both sets of parents keep saying, we are very easy going, keep it simple. nowadays everything is simplified. as long as the couple is happy. bull shit i say. look at the list of things we have to do now. issit for the couple? are we happy? am i happy?
now i wash my hands off the pig issue. if they want it, the boy will settle it, i will not remind him to order the pig, i will not arrange for the delivery, not think abt the timing for delivery, not organise the carrying of the delivery, not to do anything with the stupid pig.
u noe whats the importance of the pig? and why am i likened to a pig? its to say that the in-laws think of the girl as a good girl, a virgin. funny thought and tradition i would say. so even if the girl is a fucking bad girl, a sex addict, but she receives a pig on her wedding day, it makes her a good girl? oh please.
and when im stress. i cry. whats wrong with that? i cannot control it no matter how many times i try. signing important documents with regards to the flat, im stressed. discussing all this unexpected shit which gives me more headache, im stressed. so what if i cry. its my way of dealing with it.
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Saturday, November 07, 2009
i finally "persuaded" and "bargained" my way to get the bridal ppl to include this baby for me on my wedding day!!!!!!!!!!!!!
*jumps jumps jumps* im so excited to take it for a spin! =D =D
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